What I Found in Newcastle
That I Left Behind at Home
expectations
Up the Toon!
The world requires so little of you, my mother tells me,
These expectations are all in your head.
Go, question, and find what you require of yourself.
That is all you owe....
~ P.W
(Bonam-Young 2025)
The Encounter: St. Patrick's Day and the Globe Café
The thing is, I haven't really thought about my stance on faith since the Corona pandemic. I was baptized as a child and confirmed as a teenager. For a long time afterward, I was also active in the youth group and had a connection to God, but it was not truly solid. This was because it never really played a significant role in my family or social circles. And, of course, it was also due to my own values, ideas, and convictions. These often led to clashes with members of my home church, which is why I left it at the beginning of 2020. After that, I was completely silent on matters of faith and religion. The pain I associated with it was too great. The fear of being misunderstood, exploited, or judged was too overwhelming.
Talking About Influence
However, spending a semester abroad in England and meeting Luciana really changed all that. She is originally from Peru, but now lives in Newcastle to study. Even though we went to two different universities in the same city, We only saw each other every other Monday. We formed a connection. Luciana told me that she grew up in a Christian family but decided to follow Jesus when she was 12. It wasn’t until Luciana turned 13 that she started to live from him and for him, following what he says and being passionate about getting to know him each day more.
We talked a lot about our faith and our cultures and how it affects us in very different ways. Personally, I believe that if you don't hurt anyone and don't try to impose your beliefs on anyone, you can believe in whatever you want, however you want. Of course, these ways of thinking can clash, but one should always be open to everyone. I don't think my culture, I come from the Ore Mountains, has greatly influenced me in this regard. Of course, Christmas is the most important time of the year for us, and in my family, we go to the Christmas Eve service, but otherwise we're very flexible about going to church. Luciana told me that her culture impacts her faith as of the way that she gets to see God’s kindness and love in the mundane, in everyday life. She is from Peru and people there are so welcoming and thoughtful, there is a community or family sense that connects people. For instance, the church Luciana went to have as a venue a big house, which made interactions feel like a true family. Which is what we are as Christians – the Church of Christ, she said. Also, she’d say it’s worth noting that she has found the same family sense in the church I go to in England. So, this may suggest that there is a special bond among Christians that, talking based on the Bible and her personal experience, only comes from the Holy Spirit of God. Luciana also said that her family’s culture has impacted her journey with Jesus, as her closest family members are as committed to God as she is. They encourage each other to keep going in life. We don’t live the Christian life alone: we celebrate each other's achievements and support each other when we struggle. Luciana says that these family relationships have only improved and become stronger as each of them has grown closer to Jesus and submitted to his will rather than their own. Luciana can testify that the changes in their characters are not the result of their own efforts, but of what God has done in and through them.
Learning From My New Home away from Home
During my time in England, I attended an evening meeting of the Newcastle University Christian Union with Luciana, and I realized that I missed the feeling of being part of a Christian community. However, I also noticed that the openness of the British and international people made it easier for me to talk about my faith and the problems I had with it. Perhaps it depended on the people I was surrounded by and who had influenced my faith. Luciana describes it this way: "Nonetheless, at the same time it is difficult because almost everything around us tells us to do the contrary of what Jesus says."
The more I thought about it, the more I decided to give it another chance, this time with my own timing and with people I feel comfortable with. I may never be part of a church community again, but my trip to England made me understand that you don't need a church, just the right people around you. Even if it’s just one person.
© Credits Pictures
(c) Emily Burkert. (2025). Own pictures
© Credits Quote
(c) Bonam-Young, Hannah (2025): People watching. (p.180)



Kommentare 1
Wow, what great insights. I am very happy and glad that you have found such a great connection to Newcastle and its people and that you enjoyed your stay over there :).